tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post1675171916304984813..comments2023-05-04T05:34:14.323-04:00Comments on Black Female Interracial Marriage: Living Well: Run Like Crazy and Escape the CCBC!Eviahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06606364424958560351noreply@blogger.comBlogger224125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-36810450331585453762008-09-02T14:34:00.000-04:002008-09-02T14:34:00.000-04:00I have wanted to live overseas for years!!! *sighs...I have wanted to live overseas for years!!! *sighs* <BR/>Oneday hopefully!teeksmarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15248126271119124742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-52335995035722863322008-09-02T10:35:00.000-04:002008-09-02T10:35:00.000-04:00But I was under the impression that that such codl...<I>But I was under the impression that that such codling of dbr bm was a more modern phenomenom and not as nearly as prevalent during the 60s and before. </I><BR/><BR/>But don't you get it? Much of the present-day coddling of bm stems from the 60s when bm made it 100% clear that it was an act of treachery on the part of any bw for her to publicly oppose bm in any way. Bm preached SOLIDARITY, Eviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06606364424958560351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-65521120461535056492008-09-02T09:53:00.000-04:002008-09-02T09:53:00.000-04:00You can imagine my shock just a decade later to se...<I>You can imagine my shock just a decade later to see so much hatred of bw from SOME BM just because we were black. If indeed it was an attempt to get more bm to appreciate bw it has obviously failed miserably. It appears more and more this hatred and contempt was not a new issue but amazingly underground, at least in my circles.</I><BR/><BR/>Yes, Pamela, it is pretty shocking--the level of Eviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06606364424958560351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-10083676293824221752008-09-02T09:51:00.000-04:002008-09-02T09:51:00.000-04:00Thanks for the response Evia. But I was under the...Thanks for the response Evia. But I was under the impression that that such codling of dbr bm was a more modern phenomenom and not as nearly as prevalent during the 60s and before. The men I know of that generation were overwhelmingly family men and were less likely to date out. They are often very critical of what they see going on with today's black men.<BR/><BR/>I can see a black power Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-89539299216427630282008-09-02T09:13:00.000-04:002008-09-02T09:13:00.000-04:00I was young during those days when black is beauti...I was young during those days when black is beautiful was promoted. I was old enough to understand the message but not the actual reason why it was being promoted. I probably was too young to deal with the issues of dbr men during those days. It seemed to me that the issue was dealing with blackness in general from what I remember. Again I may have been a bit young to know what the real Pamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02625679179124409756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-86192107472123154982008-09-02T07:56:00.000-04:002008-09-02T07:56:00.000-04:00Halima said:i think the black is beautiful slogan ...Halima said:<BR/><BR/><I>i think the black is beautiful slogan was an attempt to reeducate black men in particular seeing how , they were saying the exact opposite by their preffered choices in women (its suprising how we have been taught that black is beautiful was a general attmept to elevate blackness rather than what it appears to be, to deal with bm's issues).</I><BR/><BR/>Anonymous Eviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06606364424958560351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-10186266917465731232008-09-02T03:37:00.000-04:002008-09-02T03:37:00.000-04:00Hello My Sisters,I thought I'd give everyone a tip...Hello My Sisters,<BR/><BR/>I thought I'd give everyone a tip. To all my sisters who love European men, don't forget about two gems to the north! Vancouver, British Columbia,, Canada and Montreal, Quebec, Canada. The men are gorgeous there and it's much cheaper!<BR/><BR/>Live Well, Be Well,<BR/><BR/>XaiXaiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-58003333491151059872008-09-02T00:36:00.000-04:002008-09-02T00:36:00.000-04:00i think the black is beautiful slogan was an attem...<I>i think the black is beautiful slogan was an attempt to reeducate black men in particular seeing how , they were saying the exact opposite by their preffered choices in women (its suprising how we have been taught that black is beautiful was a general attmept to elevate blackness rather than what it appears to be, to deal with bm's issues).</I><BR/><BR/>So you feel that black men in the 60s Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-89906078879694727732008-08-31T06:50:00.000-04:002008-08-31T06:50:00.000-04:00i think the black is beautiful slogan was an attem...i think the black is beautiful slogan was an attempt to reeducate black men in particular seeing how , they were saying the exact opposite by their preffered choices in women (its suprising how we have been taught that black is beautiful was a general attmept to elevate blackness rather than what it appears to be, to deal with bm's issues).Halimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13400009793511308799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-88365595482112645312008-08-29T08:57:00.000-04:002008-08-29T08:57:00.000-04:00Maybe black men would date Kenya Moore if they kne...<B>Maybe black men would date Kenya Moore if they knew she had some "indian" in her lol.</B><BR/><BR/>Well, those who passed her up missed their chance. She apparently got married a little over a year ago.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-38975503771784025112008-08-28T16:56:00.000-04:002008-08-28T16:56:00.000-04:00Maybe black men would date Kenya Moore if they kne...Maybe black men would date Kenya Moore if they knew she had some "indian" in her lol. They will sometimes consider "dark butts" if they are mixed with a "lighter butt". <BR/><BR/>A-nony-mouseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-66149439700109127722008-08-28T16:30:00.000-04:002008-08-28T16:30:00.000-04:00I guess the difference to me is hidden vs. overt a...I guess the difference to me is hidden vs. overt as you stated. I never ran into that personally other than an occasional comment that some dark skinned gals had about lighter skinned women. From time to time I saw bm go after the lighter women. I rarely if ever saw any that exclusively went after them. Maybe it is where I was reared or I was around a unique bunch here. It is apparent the Pamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02625679179124409756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-55693415482427595782008-08-28T16:10:00.000-04:002008-08-28T16:10:00.000-04:00Y'all, pls excuse my typos. I'm usually typing and...Y'all, pls excuse my typos. I'm usually typing and doing other things at the same time.<BR/><BR/>@ Pamela re:<BR/><BR/><I>YES 1992 was different than today. Those issues were really beginning during those days but the hatred and vitriol was nothing like it is today.</I><BR/><BR/>Pamela, I'm from the deep south. Without any doubt, this skin shade discrimination has been going on for a LONG, LONG Eviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06606364424958560351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-20495404414237582092008-08-28T15:05:00.000-04:002008-08-28T15:05:00.000-04:00Are you saying that 1992 is much different from to...<I>Are you saying that 1992 is much different from today? After all, at a relatively youthful age, she succeeded in marrying a black man who epitomizes quality.</I><BR/><BR/>Barack was not raised around DBR black folks AT ALL. He was raised in Indonesia and Hawaii and received his shaping and molding primarily from his white mother, Indonesian stepfather and from white grandparents who were from Eviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06606364424958560351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-37071671127289364422008-08-28T15:01:00.000-04:002008-08-28T15:01:00.000-04:00YES 1992 was different than today. Those issues w...YES 1992 was different than today. Those issues were really beginning during those days but the hatred and vitriol was nothing like it is today. I only really began to notice these issue during those years in hindsight. As I stated it was in its infancy during the early 90s. It has blossomed into the madness you see not just in interactions with bm but in every media outlet. At least where IPamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02625679179124409756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-42664284580354334522008-08-28T14:51:00.000-04:002008-08-28T14:51:00.000-04:00Whereas MANY bm simply seek lighter/whiter women.M...<I>Whereas MANY bm simply seek lighter/whiter women.</I><BR/><BR/>Many bm seek lighter black women. Those that seek white women are typically looking for women who are less likely to challenge them and are easier on their egos.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-16780109708077286812008-08-28T14:17:00.000-04:002008-08-28T14:17:00.000-04:00Evia, we all know most bm have an ego problem. Eve...<I>Evia, we all know most bm have an ego problem. Even the most butt ugly of them, still thinks he’s all that, especially if he is an “educated bm”. And with that ego obstructing their common sense, a butt ugly bm has no qualms about approaching a gem like beyonce or a queen like Gabriel Union (oops, she might be too dark for these “educated bm”). And if she doesn’t want anything to do with him, Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01742619542367946642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-41809066568178872522008-08-28T13:45:00.000-04:002008-08-28T13:45:00.000-04:00If Michelle Obama were looking to get a date with ...<I>If Michelle Obama were looking to get a date with a typical Quality bm today, she would have a HARD time because she is too DARK to get the eye of many well-educated, well-employed AA men.</I><BR/><BR/>Are you saying that 1992 is much different from today? After all, at a relatively youthful age, she succeeded in marrying a black man who epitomizes quality.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-62139251876998844032008-08-28T12:13:00.000-04:002008-08-28T12:13:00.000-04:00I am in Milan, Italy now and there is a difference...I am in Milan, Italy now and there is a difference with European men. I think it is hard for Black women..especially American women..to understand their desirability among all men. Cause we keep connected to folks in our community that do not want us to be free and love others. American Black men are a trip!! It is so ingrained in them...that they don't even realize what they are doing. Or maybe Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-92074085292566101452008-08-28T10:38:00.000-04:002008-08-28T10:38:00.000-04:00Over the decades I would ask bm if they minded tha...Over the decades I would ask bm if they minded that their wives worked. The answer was almost always 'no there will be more money for me'. When I marry the goal will be NOT to be the main breadwinner. I have done that my entire adult life. The financial area is one bw really need to make decisions on. Evia stated it well about too many bm claiming that we are being demanding when we want Pamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02625679179124409756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-89660387242738251982008-08-28T09:47:00.000-04:002008-08-28T09:47:00.000-04:00I wanted to respond to your comment, Pamela:I am c...I wanted to respond to your comment, Pamela:<BR/><BR/><I>I am considered an older single who never married. Believe me it was not because I was holding on the the 'nothing but a bm' nonsense:) I just have not met a lot of non-black men where we connected. I am one that WILL age gracefully. I also plan to marry. It will be an interesting season in my life. I am also old enough not to care if the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-6998731537127698592008-08-28T08:56:00.000-04:002008-08-28T08:56:00.000-04:00some of us EXPECT YOU TO BE EDUCATED. So just bein...<I>some of us EXPECT YOU TO BE EDUCATED. So just being educated does not mean a bm has the right to dyme piece bw, they need to learn that and move on and stop getting their feelings hurt. And if anyone wonders why I’m so annoyed at this, I just graduated from college. Although there were 3 times as many bw as there were bm, these bm would strut around as proud as a peacock as if to say, look at Eviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06606364424958560351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-37629729334371832192008-08-27T22:47:00.000-04:002008-08-27T22:47:00.000-04:00“Mary, what you're saying points to "the fact that...“Mary, what you're saying points to "the fact that there is a serious flaw in African culture when you evaluate the culture in the modern world. It's not prepared to deal with the modern world. But instead of re-forming the culture to meet the demands of the world in 2008, it seems that generally speaking, African culture wants to inherently remain the same. Yeah, it seems that Nigerians, for ex.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-55143493558160478862008-08-27T18:43:00.002-04:002008-08-27T18:43:00.002-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Eviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06606364424958560351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30641490.post-5589882583355005082008-08-27T18:43:00.001-04:002008-08-27T18:43:00.001-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Eviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06606364424958560351noreply@blogger.com